That is a terribly sad situation, Arthur, I agree. But nowhere near as fraught as the last.
I don't know what to say about an age at which children might safely be told that a sibling they thought dead is, in fact, alive.
That's a different matter from having the parents know a secret that affects the safety of so many.
I should think it would be different in nearly every case: experience of adolescents and fledgling adults suggests that not all of them are trustworthy or mature in their thinking. I could easily imagine a situation in which a young person who learned that such a secret had been kept from them might use the information against their parents or against us in anger. With devastating consequences.
I'm afraid the conversation we ought to have concerns what we will do if--when--a parent we've dealt with decides on her own to tell our shared secret to the sibling(s) of a child in our care. We might find ourselves suddenly confronted by the consequences.
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I don't know what to say about an age at which children might safely be told that a sibling they thought dead is, in fact, alive.
That's a different matter from having the parents know a secret that affects the safety of so many.
I should think it would be different in nearly every case: experience of adolescents and fledgling adults suggests that not all of them are trustworthy or mature in their thinking. I could easily imagine a situation in which a young person who learned that such a secret had been kept from them might use the information against their parents or against us in anger. With devastating consequences.
I'm afraid the conversation we ought to have concerns what we will do if--when--a parent we've dealt with decides on her own to tell our shared secret to the sibling(s) of a child in our care. We might find ourselves suddenly confronted by the consequences.